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Dr. Francois & Laura Steenberg: Your Legs Are Talking
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Meet The Vein Care Team
guestsMy name is Dr.
francoisCzestochowa Francois.
guestsI work for the Center of Vein Restoration. In terms of type of people I serve, I like to think that I serve the larger population, all types of people. My name is Laura Steenberg. I work as a physician liaison for Center for Vein Restoration. I have the privilege of working alongside of Dr. Francois in our Leesburg and Purcellville offices, as well as, um, another
lauraout in, uh,
guestsin Winchester as well. Those are the markets that I serve. And we primarily patients with chronic venous insufficiency, lymphedema, and lipedema. You
Why Education Is The Treatment
guestsboth have such a strong focus on educating patients What has made
aliyahsuch an important part of the
lauraI feel like I'm constantly educating which is, it's one of the things that I love most about my job because there's a lot of underdiagnosed patients that we have.
guestsAnd there's a lot of even referring
laurathat don't know, not only do they not know all the things that we
guestsdo
laurathat we can serve their patients with, but also just not being completely
guestseducated on how to identify things in patients.
lauraPart of my job is to go into
guestsreferring providers'
lauraoffices, and I'll educate those providers on how to
guestsidentify
lauravenous
guestsdisease in their
laurapatients as well as lymphedema and lipedema. But we also do community outreach.
guestsThat's part of my
lauraSo I'll go into a clinic or some sort of uh, free event in the community and educate patients
guestson what's going on in their body
laurahelp them, understand what's happening and what we can do to help treat them. But it's
guestsjust, I think it's much
lauramore than than what we do in our clinic. I think we've also decided to branch out into women's wellness events. That's something else we've been doing. And of course, Dr. Francois does a lot of teaching at these events where she will focus on
guestswhat she
laurawhich is venous disease. But these are events that serve women uh, not just with leg issues, the whole body. You, go ahead.
francoisTo
guestsTo that end, to expand on what Laura talked
francoisI feel like as a
guestseasy to
francoisjust treat and diagnose a But I think the integral
guestspart of our jobs that we
francoisoftentimes can neglect
guestsbecause of lack of of
francoisbilling, having to do all
gueststhese thi-
francoisother things, is that
guestseducation aspect, is entitled to not just have treatment, but also be
francoiseducated
guestson their bodies and what's going on,
francoisAnd the thing that I really like, especially working alongside Laura, is that we have the opportunity to do that, right? We've created this group of clinicians as well as other healthcare
guestsprofessionals
francoiswhose focus is not just to treat the patient, it's to treat your family, and it's also to explain it to you so that
guestsyou can treat and help to treat and manage your family member or your neighbor, right? So I don't really complete-- I don't really consider my job completed unless a patient can explain to me what venous disease is, explain
francoisto me what they think is going on as well, and then pass it on to someone else. And so one of the biggest, most rem- uh, what's the best way of putting this? Most -gratifying thing I encounter is "Hey, because of what
guestsyou taught was able to help diagnose my neighbor-
francoisand now they're coming to
guestssee you." That's an
francoisand that's really why I People think of us as just looking at the legs, but we look at so much more- than just
gueststhat
francoisinto the community- Mm-hmm Yeah ...also to caregivers. It, It's a great way of doing it, right?
guestsBecause
francoisthere's such a lack of education around medicine,
guestsright? And so you get
francoisconceptions of what medicine
guestsactually is.
francoisBut if you were to sit down with a lot of healthcare and actually ask them
guestsin a simple
francoisway to dumb down what they sometimes it's
guestshard for them to do so,
francoisright? 'Cause they, very f- rarely do we think outside of our very medical
guestsliterature.
francoisBut the great thing about working in this clinic right? The, the procedures that we do are
guestselective,
francoisright? So you have to choose to come into my And you have to choose to allow me to do the
guestsprocedures, right? So I have to sit, and I
francoishave to be able to And furthermore, I have to be able to
guestsexplain it to my colleagues as well not
francoiseven really understand anything or why it's so
lauraI was just gonna touch on, I think the, the most
guestsrewarding part of this is seeing somebody's life being transformed.
lauratheir symptoms have
guestsimproved
lauraquality of life improves and that's what it's all about.
From ER Triage To Prevention
guestsDr. Francois, emergency medicine background, and you still practice environment that setting?
francoisEmergency medicine, I don't know if every- anyone's watched "The Pitt" But it's very accurate. And actually lot of my mentors work a really high-paced environment, right? Where you don't always have the chance to
gueststheir family, right? You're just
francoistriaging, you're treating, and then you have to move on I started seeing a lot of patients who we could help prevent getting into that emergency setting where they would have to be hospitalized
guestswith all these other playing a role,
francoisand i-it
guestswas if we could break the cycle place,
francoisthen maybe they wouldn't have to seen in the emergency So in some ways, I got into this because I wanted to keep people from
guestsending up
francoisAnd then I was also
guestsinterested in the
francoisaspect. I really
guestsloved ultrasound.
francoisAnd it was a friend of mine who
guestsactually said to me, "Hey, I think you'd be really interested and good at this." And it was like, "Oh,
francoisI never my husband "This
guestsis
francoisso random for you to wanna go into from emergency medicine." But I actually think that my practice as
guestsa vascular medicine
francoisdoctor enriches my understanding as an
guestsemergency medicine and vice versa. I was gonna say vice versa-
francoisfor sure. Yeah. And I think it really helps to manage everything.
guestsAnd I can
francoiswhen a patient needs
guestsin the emergency
francoisversus not. something that I can manage in the
guestsoutpatient And
francoisit's been quite the privilege because I also,
guestsselfishly enough, I
francoiss-I would say that I get the time
gueststo speak with my patients.
francoisOftentimes I don't. Now I can forge
guestsright? So that's
francoisalso
guestsThat's awesome. Yeah. Which you don't get from the emergency medicine, you can get
francoisvascular medicine. Yeah, I'm cheating a little
guestsbit. Center
A Whole Body Vein Evaluation
aliyahfor Vein more
guestswhat people might traditionally think of vein problems.
aliyahHow do you
guestsevaluate and treat?
francoisSo I think my approach is
gueststo
francoisreally remind people that
guestseven though we have multiple specialists multiple people who focus on a specific organ or body part, right? Your body
francoisdoesn't work that way, right? Your body is like this
guestsreally
francoisintricate biological system, and when you
guestsaffect one thing, you affect other things.
francoisSo usually, the first talk I have is just that
guestsAnd I say, "Hey, I know you're coming to me for this, but I'm probably gonna tell you that there are a few other things that are going on," right? "And so that's why I want you to, contact my colleagues in cardiology. That's why I want you to talk to rheumatology. That's why I want you to talk to your primary care," right? Because it's not just me, right? And I might those things, and that's my emergency medicine background, but I certainly don't know everything about it. So I think the best thing about Our clinic is that we, and especially with the help of Laura, we have all of these
francoisspecialists
guestswho c- we can reach out to, to complete the picture, right? So the legs I feel like this is a little bit cliché to say this, but the legs really you don't think about it much, right? You walk on them. They carry you physically and metaphorically speaking, right? But we don't really care for it individually, right? But it can show us a lot of things about what's going- on in the body. And so usually I start with that, and then I say, "Okay. I see that you have swelling. I see that you have MSK issues. Tell me your history."
francoisAnd so at, at the end of the
guestsconsultation, it's not just like a leg examination. It's
francoisa whole history of
gueststheir medical history.
francoisAnd I still have patients who call. My, all my patients get my But I have patients who call me, and they'll just be like, "Hey, what do you think about this?" care question." I don't mean it in a bad way. But I'm honored that you're coming to me because I explained this to But I'm gonna pass on,
guestsbaton and
francoisthat this is something that if you need any other advice
guestsabout who we can help with that as
Swelling Varicose Veins And Sock Lines
lauraAnd primarily, I think a lot of patients come to us specifically for swelling or because they have, larger varicosities. Sometimes they come in with skin changes or even venous ulcers.
guestsBut oftentimes you don't see those visible symptoms. Sometimes fatigue. And I think more
lauraspecifically with our female patients, especially those of us who are mothers you know, we're used to being on our feet all the time. We're used to being tired at the end of the day. We're used to shirking that and
guestsshrugging
laurait off and not paying attention to our bodies
guestsas much as we should be because
laurabusy caring for everyone
guestselse. So I think I would definitely encourage listening that if you do feel leg fatigue, if you feel like your legs are tired at the end of the day, if there's a,
laurathere's also, oh, a genetic component to this. It is
guestssomething that's
lauraIt's passed down from generation to generation, so if your grandparents or your aunts and uncles, if you see that they have swelling or they have varicosities, you're much more likely to get that. And then- what's var-
guestsWhat's varicosity, versus vein?
lauravein.
francoisdoes that look it's an enlarged vein. So usually it
guestssimple terms, it's
francoisyou can see visible
gueststhat tend out when you're standing for extended periods of
francoiseven sitting for
guestsperiods of time,
francoisoftentimes
gueststhey
francoisSo you'll feel achiness around the area, swelling. Just to
guestspiggyback
francoissome of the stuff that
guestsLaura mentioned, you'll get a little bit of a sock line at the end of the day and get cramping, those types of things. So those are just some of the symptoms. Everyone can present a little bit differently, but if you have any of those symptoms, I think to her point, that's something that should tell you, "Okay, I should at least get checked out." At the very least, wear compression socks. You know what I'm saying? Okay, that would be the biggest thing. And it's very easy to dismiss it, especially amongst our women population. Statistically, we found that they, that we c- tend to come in a little bit later and we get overall... it still varies amongst different racial demographics, but overall, we will get treated at a later stage because we keep putting it off. Similarly, a lot of married men are also the same statistically. They will come in only 'cause their wives are really- pushing them to do so. But it's just like I said, said before, it's very easy to dismiss your legs even though it's the thing that's carrying you.
francoisAnd so if you see it, if you are feeling anything strange- Mm-hmm ...don't just dismiss it. Just come in. And I tell people and I also tell my providers your job isn't necessarily to stratify it and be like, "Okay, is this like, necessarily a blood clot versus just simple venous
guestsJust send them to us, right?
francoisWe'll help with the right? If there's a concern, then they should get checked out. I think everyone- just like a cardiologist will probably say
guestsshould get an echo
francoisat least once in their whole entire lifetime, everyone should get a venous screen Because just by
guestsbenefit of Earth, you're gonna have a little bit, so you just wanna know
francoisto what extent.
lauraAnd I think to your point, think that when you can get evaluated,
guestsnot
lauraonly are we going to evaluate you we're also going to educate you. That's what we do with all of our patients when they come in, so they... Even if we don't need to see you for a year
guestsand there's
laurathat can be done right now, it's just conservative management, that's fine. But now you at
guestsleast have
laurathe knowledge and the tools to be able to better evaluate your own body so that when you do start feeling pain, which you inevitably will at some point, your legs are gonna hurt.
guestsThis most, most
laurafolks. We I think we tend to
gueststhink
lauraabout venous
guestsdisease being that's m- much
lauramore prevalent with older folks, and we just chalk it up to aging. I think a lot of people did. At least I did before I worked here. That's what my thought process was. But yeah, if we, if you can become educated on how to identify this in your, in yourself and your family members, then you can self-advocate
guestsyourself.
Listening Shared Decisions And Trust
guestsdoes meaningful
francoisquestion. I think it's doing less and
guestsmore listening,
francoisbut you can only do that...
guestsAnd this
francoisthe interesting thing, right? I really wanna impress this because oftentimes
guestspatients don't see the number of patients
francoiswe have, right? And so i- there's this, role
gueststhat you
francoisto play of listening, targeted
guestslistening, but also gently directing, right? "That's not something that I can deal with, but I wanna get to the crux of your story as to what I can actually treat."
francoisSo it's a little bit of that. And then I think the most important
guestspart, which
francoisI really think that we try to I never go into a and say, "You
guestsneed treatments."
francoisI abhor that, right? Usually I say, "How do I meet you halfway so that this fits into I
guestscome with the information, you come with your body," right? "And so we can meet in the middle and figure out what is needed. If you don't wanna go through with procedures, that's fine, but I have to give you something conservative to help you because these are the outcomes that can, occur if we don't treat it," right? And so I think the conversation aspect, which I'm sure some of my staff can attest to will take-- will result in me taking way too long is the most integral part because patients should feel like they have a say in their healthcare. That's what leads to a lot of confusion about healthcare, right? It's lacking conversation. It's like saying, "You need this, you need that," without saying this is what we think. This is why we think this. This is how you can proceed. If you don't wanna do this, then here are some other measures we have." If we don't have other measures science is only as smart as what we have in front of us, right? So that's the kind of thing that we try to impress upon people, and I think that our patients really value the conversation, even whether or not they decide to go with us. I had one patient come in and she's like, "But you never decide-- You never thought you'd see me again." I'm like, "No." I was like, "I..." And she's mean?" And I was like, just meant that right for you,
francoisyou'd come back,
guestswhich you did. If procedures aren't, then I gave you the guidance that you needed
francoisto be able to treat
guestsyourself,
francoisand you've come back.
guestsspeaks for
francoisitself." So that's one of the things that I
guestsprivileged to do, conversation. We have the time to do that. Some of my colleagues may not. Yeah. I think with regards to
laurayour question about patients being heard, I think one of the other things that our patients get to benefit from is the fact that we do have some of these support groups and community
guestsevents where
lauraDr. Francois and some of our other colleagues
guestswe get together
laurapretty regularly. We have- That's Good we have round table dinners where we are discussing
guestsevents,
lauraand we have events that we do pretty regularly. And they're
guestspatient-centered.
laurathey're, physician-centered where we're educating physicians.
guestsBut
lauraoftentimes they're for patients. They're for patients to meet with other patients that also are going through what they're going
gueststhrough
lauraso that they can realize that they're not alone. They can learn about
gueststhe different
lauraavailable here in Northern Virginia. They can meet some of the other providers. Because it's not just the colleagues
gueststhat we work
laurawhere we create these events. There's lots of other
guestsproviders
laurathat come, public floor therapists. There's acupuncturists, people that, that are just in Loudoun County
guestsin general that
lauraattend these events and they can also become
guestsresources for some of these
lauraPatients get to learn from each other and
guestsdevelop
laurarelationships with
guestseach other. That's the really important part. Yeah. Because in certain in certain parts didn't mean to cut you off. No, you're good. But in certain, In certain aspects of what we don't have all the answer and all the research yet, right? It's, we're still actively working on it. We didn't really talk about lipedema, which I don't know if you have more questions about. I'm sure it's... I feel like it's coming. I feel like it's
francoisI feel like it's coming. I can h- I can
gueststhe build-up. It's coming. But a lot
francoisus and our colleagues have had to research this on our own. It wasn't something that was taught to It was just was very more rigid way of kind
guestsBut we're learning that there's a whole haven't considered,
francoisAnd when we
guestsdon't have the answers, sometimes, a neighbor might who's further along on a
francoispath than So we really try
gueststo encourage that
francoisbecause we can only do
guestsso much, in all honesty. And we only have so much information. But oftentimes when one person who has it speaks to another person who has it or s- who struggles with it, there's a whole world of conversation that opens up that allows them to benefit from one another. And I think we've really found that
francoisto be the case with our...
guestsI think it's rain. Is it
francoisraining outside now?
guestsOh. Probably.
francoisI think
gueststhe best thing about being in Loudoun County is that we have really
francoisgreat specialists where we have a lot
guestsof educated people who are willing to learn from one another,
francoisAnd we just facilitate that. I think we facilitate it. I think we we do a great job of doing that. But for
gueststhe most part, I
francoisthink they do if
guestsbeing quite we do it too. Yeah. We're going
lauraVirginia Beach next weekend Dr. Prinspah and I and two other colleagues to meet
gueststwo other
lauracolleagues, a, a plastic
guestssurgeon- Yeah who does lipedema liposuction, as well as another provider who treats and
laurapatients with lipedema. So we're going specifically to meet with them
guestsand learn a little bit more about this and watch a surgery and, yeah, we're constantly trying to educate ourselves. There's a lot more to learn.
Lipedema Learning From Patients
guestsWell, that leads me to my next question, which is lipedema has become an increasingly I had a number who kept coming
francoisto me.
guestspatients who kept coming
francoisme, and I remember
gueststhe first conversation I had with someone who was very well educated with it
francoisbecause I said,
guestsI'm not a lipedema expert."
francoisAnd she said, "Whoa whoa. More about it than anyone else I've had." She put me through a test.
lauraIt was a vetting process.
francoisIt was a vetting process. A very, very
laurarigorous vetting
francoisprocess. And I didn't realize I was going through it. And I was like... And she's like do you know
guestsabout this thing called and blah, blah?"
francoisAnd I was like, "Yeah, I've read about it." I
guestsI was like, "I don't really, we don't really have the superior testing for it, but this is how I approach it, and I, go through these
francoisthings first." And I of went through
gueststhe whole conversation with her about it. And then it was, like, 15 minutes was up. And little did I know
francoisthat she not only had it, but she was, in essence,
guestssay in essence, she was also a healthcare provider who was trying to get treatment for it actively and has now been integrated into our community- in terms patients. And
francoissh- the only time she stopped me during the entire
guestsconversation was when I was like, "Listen, this is what I know, but I don't expert on it." And
francoislike, what makes someone an
guestsexpert?" She's like,
francoisCaring enough about it to read about it- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm ...to keep
guestslearning about talk to your
francoispatients about it,
guestsand
francoislearn from both
guestsgroups," right? She's like, "And you are an expert And you
aliyahThat's
francoiswhat- Exactly That's exactly what she said to me. I still remember that. I'm not gonna say her by name, but- she was like, "And you're..." She's like, "So you're an expert." And I'll still say that, I'm not
guestsexpert because I don't feel like I
francoisdirectly treat it.
guestsI think a lot of can help with it,
francoisI'm sure to make that
guestsdistinction,
francoisand I've, I reason it out I'm like, "This is why this
guestscan help. This is why
francoisI will start you on the right path." And my biggest thing with lipedema
guestsis I want them to have the resources so that they can keep learning and teaching me. So I'll have patients who come back, and this is also one of the best parts of my job, but I'll have patients who come back who's like, "Hey, I found this device, and
francoisonly this much
guestsmoney, and for your lipedema patients, you should really have them try it." And it's amazing because it's like these are patients who are helping
francoisme to treat other patients. Mm-hmm, so when I go to my next patient who
guestsfrank lipedema,
francoisI'm like, they're like this is too expensive," 'cause it's an expensive disease. A lot of- Yeah these disorders are not, something that you can get, you can treat
guestseasily, right? It takes thousands of- Part
francoisof that is the
laurainsurance
francoisworld right now. That's true. That is the insurance world. Yeah. Which hopefully will change
lauranext year. Like 2027, yeah. Yeah. Will be an
francoisICD
guestsICD code.
francoisbut it's... it's that
guestspart, but it's also
francoisthe experts are far and few
guestsbetween, right? There are a
francoisof providers who don't even know about it. And I didn't know about it until
guestsI was forced to learn about it, right? But
francoisthe patients will come in and say,
guestsHey,
francoisI found this really
guestsand then
francoiscan add that to my list other
guestsright?
francoisAnd it's really
guestsIt's gratifying who start to have,
francoisresolution
guestswho are just like, "Thank
francoisyou because no one listened to me." "And, but you
guestsat least listened."
francoisI never make some of the promise that I'm
guestsfix you,
francoisright? I'm glad I'm not God, right? But
guestsdo make them the promise that I will give them all the resources that I have
francoisto be able to help manage it.
guestsWhen they
francoiscome back and they've managed it,
guestsare even that more excited to spread it to other So we like create like a,
francoisthis parasitic kind of like effect. It's like
guestsinfectious kind of process of- Infectious. It's a good infection. process, but-
lauraI think w- specifically with our lipedema patients, most of these patients have gone most
guestsof their life
lauranot being diagnosed.
guestsThey- and
lauraYes.
guestsYeah. Go
francoisI'll let you answer
What Lipedema Feels Like
francoisthat one. So lipedema, the easiest way of describing it, it's an inflammatory connective tissue and I affectionately
guestscall it the Kim Kardashian effect is that
francoisevolutionarily it
guestswould've
francoislike, living on the Serengeti.
guestsBut what
francoisstart to have is you start to
guestshave kind of this fat buildup in
francoisthese weight-bearing areas. So a lot of times
guestspatients will come in... And it does have a specific
francoismorphology, but it can be very easily di-
guestsconfused
francoiswith lymphedema or really bad cases of venous disease. So they're all like intermingled. But my patients will come in, and some- sometimes for the later
guestsstages that you can't quite make out, they'll say,
francoisHey, this all started
guestsarthritis.
francoisand even though
guestsI get reprieve in my arthri-
francoisI still have a lot of discomfort and pain in these
guestsparticular areas." And
francoisit's usually weight-bearing areas because that's up landing. And the really interesting
gueststhing is that,
francoispeople will often say just lose
guestslose weight. Just lose weight."
francoisfor a lot of
gueststhese people who have
francoislipedema it's not
gueststo do
francoisbecause the fat that, this type of fat that they accumulate
guestsends up
francoisincreasing their fat gain
lauraalso doesn't respond to diet and exercise the way that normal fat does.
francoisIt... Yeah, it doesn't. But it also, it, because
guestsof the inflammatory aspect of it it causes
francoiseverything to go up into
guestso- in
francoisAnd inflam- inflammation is like a catch-all phrase, but that's all to just say that
guestswhen
francoishave this excess
guestsinflammatory fat, makes it really hard for you to lose weight overall with the typical
francoisSo even though you'll try these things like diet and exercise, it increases your stress response and makes it
guestsactually like this
francoisworsening So you have to target it in very specific ways. And you, oftentimes it's not just lipedema.
guestsIt's with venous disease, lipedema with lymphedema- these types of
francoismixtures that
guestswe see because people diagnosed early, right? And so down the line they come in and then other organ systems are also affected. So it's not just one organ system. These multiple organ systems get affected. And so when patients come to us, they
francoishave two or three organ Oh, really my goal with a lot of this is like lipedema,
guestsyes,
francoisI care about the cosmetic aspect.
guestsI'm a female, I understand that, right? But
francoispeople with lipedema
guestshave higher
francoisBecause you're not gonna wanna move if you have this
guestsMakes
francoissense, right? So i- insomuch as we can stop
gueststhat
francoisand prevent that from worsening, you're talking about really
guestsaffecting women's
francoisright? We're more likely to die of a heart attack, silent heart attack. We're more likely to have strokes, right? We're more likely to keep going despite the fact that we're getting all, we have all these other
guestsright? And so stopping the cycle at one point is really important. Important.
francoisthat's why I think the lipedema aspect is important, not just because and there's
guestsa cosmetic aspect, b- but because of what it'll affect down the line. I understand. Sounds like a lot fun.
laurafun.
francoisDepends
guestson
francoisday.
guestsit depends on the day. You guys have actually started growing a community the broader What have you learned from cre- creating that community? So much, honestly. That hormones play a really large role Dr. Cruz, which who you should definitely have on your show next- She's been on she's amaz- she's amazing. She's, has she
francoison?
aliyahentire
guestscrew has been. were talking about her
francoisI'm just throwing out words.
guestsdown the list. Yeah, the, it, there's just so much more than you would think is involved that plays a role. And that, Like, when it seems like a mountain, the biggest thing I talked about this a little bit on the podcast another podcast that we did that you just have to take one piece and just work on one piece, the one piece that you can change. Some of my patients will come in and say, up ice cream." And I'm like, "Okay. Can you do a little bit of the
francoisdiet
guestswith that ice cream? Can you get into a pool three times a week for me?" And they're like, "I can do that." I'm like, "Okay, that's a place where we can start." Can you get in the pool with the ice cream?
aliyahwith
francoiscream? I think that would
guestsmake it the best. Actually, I I was like, "I go to the
francoispool. I go, I do older
guestscalisthenics in the pool 'cause
francoisthe grandmas will give afterwards." I was like, "That's the real hustle." I know, exactly. I was like, "That's the real way to go." And you make new friends, and they love you like that. This is the best. The why, I love it. Right? It's a great way to go. I love
laurait. I was going to share I, something that I've
guestslearned
Hormones Menopause And Medical Gaslighting
laurawith these,
gueststhe
lauracommunity that we've created here is that every single patient's story seems to be eerily similar in the sense
gueststhat they've
laurabeen medically gaslit. They've all been under-diagnosed or misdiagnosed. Most of them have been told to just lose weight. And they've also a lot of the changes have happened during menopause, perimenopause. There's hormone hormones that affect this being exacerbated or presenting itself. Everybody just seems to kinda have the same experience which is why I think having these support groups and educational events is so important because this is a group of
guestsprimarily women who underserved. And so
laurato your point earlier, you were asking about patients feeling
guestsheard. These... We're
lauracreating a space for
gueststo feel heard. Not
lauraare they being given
guestsactual diagnoses
laurabut also resources, education,
guestssupport,
laurafriendships, mental
guestshealth support. Patients now feel they're not alone. Exactly,
laurayeah.
guestsis important. It is.
francoisAnd I think
guestsit's really
francoisto remember I
guestssay being on both ends of the
francoisI've
guestsbeen a patient, and also There is much To know as a clinician
francoisin any field
guestsspecialty,
francoiseverything is
guestsright?
francoisAnd people will present with vastly kind of different And I think that's why there's an Or to empower Not because they, were not, Let me put it this way. It's when a patient comes in
guestswith a Google, y- diagnosis, right? I'm not just "Why are you googling?" I'm like, "Tell me why you think you have this." Teach me something that I don't know. Because we are fallible. We as clinicians are fall- fallible. I think that's really easy to think that we should know
francoiseverything, and we don't. I'm just gonna
guestsput that out there. We do not.
francoisAnd so sometimes when we don't diagnose lipedema, it's because we've never seen lipedema, right? It's because
guestshow do
francoisyou diagnose something you've never seen, right? How do you, like, when your training just has these specific things-
guestsand that's
francoisyou have in your toolbox
guestseverything kinda looks like a
francoisif all you have is a So I think that as we
guestsexpand, as we learn more things, you'll have a lot of clinicians who will be like, "Oh, I have a lot more in my toolbox now," right? Which is, I think, the benefit of kind of the community
francoiswe've created of clinicians as
guestswell, 'cause things in my toolbox, right? the, there was so
francoishormonal things that were that
guestskind of related to lipedema.
francoisBut now if I have a patient who, has a little bit more kind of rigid lipedema, I'm like, "Hey
guestslet's
francoismore of a hormonal
guestsreview of what's going on." Right? I it's wonderful are not stuck in your ways. Because I think it happens Don't come in here with Dr. Google
lauraanything." I think
guestsin
lauraspecialty- providers too, I think a lot of specialty
guestsproviders stuck in
lauratheir one la- they wanna stay in their one lane. And I think part of that, I'm grateful for your ED background because I think you, you are unable to look at just the one thing, yeah. You look
guestsat the
lauraas a whole,
guestsand, Short of like puppies that can't keep our attention on one thing. Yes, 100%. And that is a, benefit of my specialty.
francoisI will say that
gueststhere are things that I
francoisAnd I have called "Hey," like I have patients who could attest to this, who I'm just like, "Hey, I think I
guestsmight have missed something," or, "I think there's
francoiselse."
aliyahAre you like one
francoisAnd I'm like- then something- Yeah. clicks and you're like- Yeah, 100% 100%, And that's,
guestsand it's funny because it's not just me. Like I've had other of my
francoisother providers who are just like, "I realize that I've been treating patients in a certain way-" probably had this, but I just didn't know that they And so how do you make up for that deficit,
guestsright?
francoisPhysicians can
guestsknow so much. Healthcare providers can only know so much, and so we have to empower the patient to advocate for themselves. I always tell this to my parents. I'm like, "Listen, you should know what medications you have. You should know what they do, and you should know the side effects," right? Basic things to know, and you should ask about it. If you feel like a s- a physician, and this part you can choose, you feel like a physician's unwilling to sit there and talk to you about it in some capacity, whether whether it's like, giving the information by their staff, right? Then that's not the physician for you. I'm not the physician for everyone, right? Find the you. And luckily we're in an era, especially that there's a lot of great clinicians that you can find a physician for you. You don't have to just stick with one who you're like, "We're not on the same vibe." I've gone doctor shopping. I really have. We all do. We all do,
francoisOkay, not just
guestsbased on the reason, but I have definitely gone doctor shopping. So I encourage people to go and meet their doctors. Know them, right? Just be like, "Hey, I know you, that you can't account for everything. What do you do when you can't account for everything?" my s- unless they're watching a video like this and they really know you. But outside of that, really just like a headshot and an About Me bio, 'cause you probably don't want to-
aliyahYeah. Um, there's
guestsmedical info What do you think patients should look for
francoistheir provider? That's a good question.
guestsI'm curious to see what you would say-
francoisI mean- 'cause I have a thought, but-
lauraI think it's all,
guestsI think it's all
lauraworth bringing to your provider. I think it's the more information that you can share about what's going on in your
guestsbody with
laurayour provider, the better.
guestsI think
laurathe reality is
gueststhat and I think you, you touched
lauraabout this earlier, she can
guestsonly treat what she knows So
lauraneed to give her as much information as
guestshumanly
laurapossible for her to be able to make an assessment, right? Because she does... we do ultrasound in our clinics. That's diagnostic. She also does a clinical evaluation. But y- you can't
guestssee the pain in the leg, right? That's
laurasomething that patients have to describe.
guestsThey to
lauracommunicate to her,
guestsMy legs hurt
lauraat the end of the day. They hurt,
gueststhey throb when I'm trying to go to sleep," or whatever it looks like, right? That's communication about what they're feeling and their experience in the world.
lauraSo I think if there's any questions that
guestspatients
lauraor any concerns that they have, I think bringing it up
gueststo
laurayour primary care provider, specialty providers,
guestsbring it
lauraall up. And I think,
gueststhat you receive from, hopefully from your primary or from
lauraany specialty providers,
guestswill help you determine the sorts of things
laurayou wanna bring up to them. But I would say everything
Self Advocacy And Finding The Right Doctor
guestsI think that's a loaded question. It's a to answer. I think that's the me thus far.
francoisI think we treat medicine
guestsas into a provider the answer, right? We- you treat it as a okay, I go in and you should have the answer for me, right? I think a more appropriate
francoisway of treating
guestsmedicine is of exclusion,
francoisright? Oftentimes, there's
guestsa bunch
francoisof different things
gueststhat can be
francoisgoing on at the same time
guestsor that hasn't
francoisjust hasn't declared
guestsitself, right? So in the
francoisemergency room, I am-- it's very much
gueststriage-based, right?
francoisI deal with the people who are the sickest first, right? And then I
guestsmove on from there. But sometimes the people who are actually sick as well don't declare themselves immediately. It takes time for So it's
francoislike we have this mentality
guestsmedicine, like it's almost like fast food, right? You want you want it now, right?
francoisand that's the most
guestsconven-- I hate to say it that way, but it's not Burger King. It's
francoisI've said that. We are--
guestsit is... medicine
francoisat its core is a science, But at
guestsits crux, it's an art form, right? You're not
francoisgonna rush an You just wait for them to come
guestsup with a Picasso, right? And saying that you should take... some things are time sensitive. I understand that. But
francoisI think that there's that, I don't wanna say patients put that pressure on. I think it's
guestsjust pressure like insurance company, things like that, to make a diagnosis. And so I think more than anything else, instead of bringing everything,
francoislike, I think
gueststhe most
francoisimportant thing I can
guestsimpress upon patients is to start with the thing that bothers you the most. We may not get to everything, right? I may not get to your years of hand pain. I'm sorry. It's just, it's not specialty, right? I'll try to address it at some point or address it. But start
francoisthe thing that's bothering you the most, the thing that was just like, "I
guestshave to see this provider," right?
francoisAnd then see how they respond to
guestsyou. See if they dis- just
francoisyour questions
guestsoffhand say, "Okay, that's something I can work with," right? And
francoisif they're just like, "I'm so
guestssorry, I patient,
francoiswill
guestskeep
francoisaddressing these issues," or see if they're just like, "That doesn't matter," Because it-- at the very least if it matters to you, it should matter to the provider. Whether or not they believe that's a real issue it should matter
gueststo them, right? That
francoisthey have to educate you And
guestsso I think that's the most important. I know I gave you a lot of things with that. But like I think just ultimately remembering that medicine is an art form,
francoisright? That you're gonna make some blemishes, that there's gonna be some things that may not look right, that you have to zoom in, zoom out, right? You have to like- That's really what really good clinicians are. They practice it as Right? It's the time. Ex- it's a final version all the time, and everyone has a bit of a different masterpiece. So for some of my patients, it takes me
guestsa year.
francoisI one patient in particular, it took me a year to dwindle everything down. I was like,
guestsJust stick with me stay with me with this," and sometimes it
francoishappens. And not everyone loves my art.
guestsNot... It's true, okay?
francoisBut I try to ins- I try to impress
guestsupon them that what is
francoisimportant to them is important to me. You can ask Cindy.
guestsI will see a patient no matter what. I'll be like,
francoisIf you really need to see me, if you're telling me that you have to see
guestsme today,
francoisand that I'm gonna... I will
guestssqueeze you in."
francoisI've had people walk into my office, and I'm
guestslike, "Hey, with?" Because I, that's the same care that I would want for my family. But similarly, I
francoisthink that the way that patients
guestscan help protect themselves is to do those things, and just to remember that, right? That, we have bad days, too. days where we're just trying to keep people alive. And when we see a patient, we always want to give them the best care we can, but sometimes that takes time. I think the challenge too, Most of us are caring I
francoiswould, I I tell
guestsbut I'm... What are
francoisshaking your head for?
aliyahjust like, "No."
guestspeople are active listeners and other people are,
aliyahprofessionals
guestsare more of "I know what's going on," Mm-hmm. they don't necessarily give the speak. So I could see being a sat down and they wanted to talk about 20 about the pain they've been in, and we're
aliyahpause right there.
francoisMm-hmm.
gueststhese issues first, and then round two we'll get to." And I'm gonna
francoissuper honest with you, I've had to do
guestsYeah. I've
francoishad to be like, "Hey,
guestslisten,
francoisI care." And I'll sit them
gueststhere and I'll be like, "I
francoiscare
guestsabout the story. The story matters, right? I also have 20 other people with a story." Yeah. "And what I wanna do is make you feel and make you get to, we can address some part of your story today. We can continue
francoisit another day. You can email me.
guestsYou have my number. I'm not closed that if people feel
francoislike their doctor
guestsisn't closed off from
francoisa route
aliyahthey can
francoisstill- There's a
guestswrapping and still contact, right? Yeah. My
francoispatients will come and call me for accidentally or on purpose, I don't know which it is, for scheduling. And I'm like, "I have no idea how to do this." You just, like I... You've gotten the most useless person in the clinic. For that's not...
guestsS- But I'll be like, "Okay, frustrated about this.
francoisI'm gonna find a way to
guestsschedule you." And they're like, "Oh, thank you so much, Dr. France." I'm anything." I literally just punted it to the next person,
francoisright? Like I did nothing.
guestsAnd there are a lot of other people who make m- the abil- my ability to sit with a patient. They allow for me to do that by doing work that's a lot harder. Laura is one of them, right? Like it's a really takes a village, right? I s- I come there, Cindy's She's off-screen, but me the time to do so. So I think that I have the affordability to be kind and be able to sit and talk to them a little bit more, because I have staff that allow me to do that, right? So I think that would be another piece of advice is find don't just judge a doctor's office by the doctor. Yeah. Judge them by their staff, right? sits with you and is like, "Hey, let me explain this to you." "Let me talk to you about this." Like there have been a number of times that I've said to Laura, "Hey, you should call this patient- and explain all this stuff." I mean- Or she'll yank me into a room. I- "I need you to talk to this patient about this." 100%,
francoisI'm not the physician
guestsfor every day, right? But I can usually
francoissomebody
gueststo it clearer for them, right? Yeah.
francoisYeah. And it's about using all the st- the resources you have, and so I will 100% use
guestssometimes other persons. That's the whole point of having a good team. It's-
francoiswhole point of having a good team. It's- a great team. It is, yeah So look at their staff, too.
aliyahAfter
guestspatients, your community, and each other, what do you wish more people understood about advocating for their own health? I know we touched ...is there anything you wanna add to that?
Be Kinder To Your Body
gueststime for yourself to pay attention to your
laurais really important. I think most of us are really busy in
guestslife. Everybody going on. We Most of us work full time, most of us have kids, most of us have, maybe we're taking care of, all sorts of things going on. Life doesn't stop. And I think it can be
laurareally easy
gueststo go through life and not pay attention to your
lauraand what's happening.
guestsSometimes it's like a frog in boiling water. Some of it happens slowly over time, and you just kinda get used to it.
lauraso I think if we can
guestsmake
lauratime to
guestsgo see
lauraprimary care doctor once a
guestsyear, I don't think
lauraThere's a, the va- a lot of
guestsAmericans that do not see primary cares. At the least. Yeah. Once a year, at the least. Yeah. Yeah. But if you can make time to do that, and if you're a woman, go to your OBGYN, go get your regular
laurago get your colonoscopies. Yeah. Go do all the things, and then pay attention to your body. And you're in any pain, then
guestsbring it up to your doctor because usually your body
laurais trying to
guestsyou something.
francoisMy husband once said this to me about like, "I gotta
guestslose weight."
francoishave an was like, "I'm not losing weight. I lost a bunch of weight beforehand, but now I'm not losing I don't know what's happening." And he's a bariatric I usually make He's a very nice
gueststhough. He really is. Very nice. He's very nice. Very sweet. But he's very straightforward, right? So he said to me, he's "If you were your body and yourself as you were on your patients, do you think anyone would come to you?"
francoisand I was like, I
guestsYou're not helping." And then he goes, he says to me along the lines of, he's body is just this small creature-
francoisthat is
guestsdesperately trying to keep you alive. You me-" Oh, that's so so sad.
francoisIsn't it so sad? Isn't that like the most heartbe- from a surgeon of all people. He's like, "This poor little creature has
guestscarried you. It
francoishas, taken care of you when you were cold. It has it is your shelter. It is your home,"
guestsright?
francoisAnd you just,
guestsyou just-" Pardon my French, shit on it. Yeah. He's like, "You shit on it." You don't understand that every scar is
francoisit protecting you. It tells a
guestsstory, right? It's really important to remember that. And
francoisI just thought that was the most profound
gueststhing to ever come from a surgeon's mouth. like, wow, that was, it was so deep. That took three brain cells for you to say. And he was like,
francoisNah, I'm joking." So he said that, and he's "Just, it's just trying to keep you
guestsalive," right? "Just
francoisbe kinder to it." "Just be nicer to it. So fine, you had a burger.
guestsTomorrow salad. Just
francoisthink of your body that's struggling to just,
guestsdo everything to keep day." You other things in your life, right? You take care of your children, you take care of your parents, you take care of, your spouse. You don't even
francoisthink twice about But how
guestsoften do you actually think about taking care of
francoisLike a little
gueststhat you have to take
francoisof."
guestsAw.
francoisthat Oh my God, it makes me
gueststear up even now. It makes me tear up even now. It makes me cry to- Like a little creature it also makes me cry to know that a surgeon had to tell me
francoisIt
guestsIt really did, but it's the best thing he's ever said. when you're just an amiable baby. Come on.
francoisOh, yeah. No, I
guestswas just- Right? I was really, I was, like, real, I about it.
francoisAnd he was like, "Yeah, it's just be kinder." "Because sometimes that's where it starts." And
guestsespecially for women we're one of the statistically it's higher for us, but we can get, we can actually get a broken heart. We can get a stress cardiomyopathy, right? It's nicknamed broken heart syndrome. It's because of our caring, right? It's because of our sense of nurturing. We can die from a broken heart. How crazy is that, right? That's something that's a thing. legit thing. It's a legit thing. It's a l- it's called Takotsubo's cardiomyopathy, but it's a legit thing, and it kills women, right? And when I heard about that, I thought it was, like, really romantic at first. I was like, that's really, that's really- it's really sad. It's like a Heathcliff kind of, like- But I was also like, that's you've things for yourself, especially my women patients. Because
francoiswe tend to not, and we t- we can die of a
guestsbroken heart, right? Isn't that really profound of- Yeah that's something that can affect And so taking care of ourselves,
francoisyou spa days,
guestsand that we
francoisare, in the house of a creature that's
gueststrying to keep you alive desperately.
francoisDesperately trying to keep you alive.
aliyahvisual, and now it's like, "Do you want me to die of a broken heart? Let me go to my spa day, Exactly. like-
francoison a shopping trip? Is this your wife? Like,
aliyahme
guestsdo- I don't wanna die of a broken heart. I don't wanna die of a broken heart. Tell, I tell you, look it up. Are you married? Yeah. Yeah, so look it up and show it to your husband. Okay. Guilt him forever. You guys, just to before
Women’s Health Event Details
guestswe wrap this up, you guys have an event
aliyahlittle about that?
guestsWe do. We have an November 7th. That one, that
francoisI just
guestsshow up where they tell me. Yes. So event, and we have nine providers. Dr. Francois is- I love how she's saying this to me just to remind me good as we go through. Yep.
lauraYeah. So nine providers, Dr. Francoise is
guestsone of them. And it'll be a women's health
lauraevent
guestshere in Loudoun County. It will more than likely be a few hours long. We're still
lauranailing down the times. I'm gonna
francoisshow up for a few hours. Like,
lauraI It's gonna be great. Just
francoisa few hours. long.
lauraBut these are gonna be all specialty providers, so we'll have a cardiologist, a mental health therapist,
guestspelvic floor
lauratherapist somebody who does
guestshormones, so many more. This sounds like a good opportunity
lauraYes. by-
guestsby getting information. And I will not toot my own horn, but all of the lineup that
francoisI've seen so thus far- they're all
guestsintelligent people who care, who have families- who I think it's really important to see physicians yourself,
francoisin all diversity sexuality, all those types and they are the
guestsspectrum. It's really
francoisawesome. And they-
lauraThey c- they care enough to take time out on a Saturday to- Exactly. Yeah educate people- Mm-hmm ...which is amazing. And a lot of the, the providers that gonna be speaking are, were part of our last event which we had back in May. yeah, the fact that they're... these are repeat speakers people who are just as passionate about educating the community as we
guestsare. They take great pride in the way that they care for their patients, and
laurathose are people we like to send our patients to, other specialty providers who care as much as we do, you know? We're all in it together.
aliyahthat?
lauraSo actually on mywellnessphysicians.com
gueststhat's Dr. Cruz's
lauraoffice, so at that we'll have the Eventbrite link open hopefully at the
guestsof this week. Awesome. And then in future
aliyahyou like this
guestsWe
francoisdo I suspect that it's gonna always be through my wellness physician. so- Yes.
laurayes I think- Yes, Dr. Cruz is the spearhead she's the- Yeah, she
guestsall of this. Yeah, she's definitely the, the planner in terms of all these things. We've gotten many a 2:00 AM text from her- about "I have an idea. You guys gotta get on board." So- Yeah we get on board. It's good that you guys all support each other that way. Yes. We do. It's wonderful. We're friends by necessity, one might say. It's, it's nice. Mutual respect. As we wrap to add that I'm really glad that this kind of
francoisplatform exists.
guestsYeah. I think it's really
francoisimportant, especially that, if you were male, it but especially that you're a woman as well. So I think that the
guestsasked are really
francoisrelevant well
gueststhought and I think that a lot of women will listen to this, and
francoismaybe men
guestswho are
francoismarried will end up coming to our clinic most
guestslikely. But I think that having more forums like this to be able to spread the word out so that people aren't misinformation don't have a reason to
francoisfear medicine
guestsmistrust it, right? They the right-
francoisclinical team for them. That's what people to walk away from
guestsThere is a team out
francoisthere for me. There are physicians out there
guestsme. I don't have to be scared of my body or things that are going on." "And I'm empowered to learn more about this." That means I've done something well.
lauraThank you so much
guestsfor having us. It's been such a, a pleasure both before and during the podcast, just learning a little bit more about you. Being
laurato spread information about what we do, the types of patients that we treat, and the events that we have going on, because we're here to serve the community.
guestsThank You so much
lauraThank you so much for having