Speaker 1: 0:30

So I go by the name of Coach Keisha. That is the name that is associated with my business. I am the founder and CEO of Destin for Purpose Life Coach, which has been established since 2022.

Speaker 2: 0:48

I love that. Talk to me a little bit about the services that you provide for your clients. What are clients coming in for when they're looking for your assistance and help with coaching?

Speaker 1: 0:57

So I am a youth and young adult life coach and I support the youth and young adults with transitioning into adulthood at a very pivotal moment in their life, when they're pretty much thrust into adulthood legally by the age of 18. When the law says that, hey, you are an adult. However, mentally and emotionally, they probably have not made that transition. So I support them with making that transition as smoothly as possible. And what does that consist of?

Speaker 1: 1:38

Allowing them to connect with who they are authentically and disconnect from, you know, social media and the influences in that aspect of life, really doing a deep dive of where they come from, a sense of belonging. You know who raised them, how were they raised to really arrive to their um, their identity, and it has a very important um impact on who they are and who they aspire to become. So, when they transition into adulthood, that first of all, they know who they are and then they understand where they want to go. And they understand that by knowing what works for them and what does not work for them. And being able to understand and make those connections and put those dots together allows them to make healthy decisions, because it's very important that they understand that transitioning into adulthood is just not about paying bills. You know this scope, the framework of transitioning into adulthood is greater, is bigger when you look at it from a holistic standpoint.

Speaker 2: 2:52

But it first starts with the identity of who they are yeah, no, and being like turning into an adult is such a hard concept, sometimes right when you're like but I'm just a kid or I'm just growing up, how do I even begin to do that? And I feel like sometimes at schools maybe they don't give you the full spectrum of what it's like to be an adult and it always is just going to like okay, paying bills and being full-time. That's it like to be an adult, and it's always is just going to be okay, paying bills and being full time. That's it Like you're an adult, right, and so that's where you come in and you're helping them figure out what their purpose is, who they are and how they're able to manage that. I'd like to know how you got started in your industry, what led you to this type of field and working with the youth.

Speaker 1: 3:34

So I got started in this business, in this particular industry in general, during the pandemic, one thing I love is to help people. That is truly my calling, that is truly my purpose. I know that I am compassionate and passionate for helping others. So during the pandemic, of course, I'm in the house and I have youth and young adults on my own and I'm like, what can I do to help them? Because, again, I'm passionate and compassionate about helping and I heard the Lord say clear as day become a life coach. And I'm like, wow, what is that Right, even though you know it, you've heard it, yeah, but when you, when I went to do the background and a research on it, I'm like, wow, this is really a thing Right. So I begin to, um, you know, study it and see what institutions that I can really, um, learn from, get the knowledge and get the training that I need in order to give my industry well, my business specifically the accreditation and the boost that I really needed it to have in order to be taken seriously in this industry. So I started to do my research in that area and I attended a life coach institute for an entire year. So I got out of my accreditations and training and certifications in that area during the pandemic.

Speaker 1: 4:59

Perfect timing, right when the world is down in a quiet and everybody's like staying home. So I had to really get creative with these youth and younger dogs right, waking up every morning, feeding them you know, they're in school online, which is a new atmosphere look and feel for them. So I had to become very creative in this particular moment. So I'm like how can I help them? And I just started to do it even more and even more and the more I begin to realize that I love this. I really, really love this in a genuine way. And I realized, and I connected with it to say this is my calling and this is what I was called to do. Um, you know, and I wanted to walk out this purpose. So I said, well, guess what? I want to give this a face and a name and really take it, you know, um, widespread right and really bring some awareness around it. So I I teetered with what would the name of my company be if I had to, you know, give it a name and a face. Yeah, so I went from design to destined, you know, and I kind of went back and forth with those two names and I heard the Lord say clearly is this. It clearly is day destined for purpose, because that's what the youth and young adults are. They're destined for purpose, but they have to see that they need somebody to really give them that understanding, that hope, that love and the consistency that they're missing in their day-to-day support. So I started it in 2002 and I've been going full steam ahead every since, right?

Speaker 1: 6:43

But when people ask me, how long have you been life coaching? Well, with three children, I think life coaching I've been life coaching all of my life. Children, I think life coaching I've been life coaching all of my life. You know, um actually just taking it to a different level. And the beauty of this is that when I got started, I um asked my three children. I said will it be okay if I shared my love with the world, shared my love with the world, if I share my passion with the world and I offer and impact the world with everything that I have in me, that I have given to you all? Yes, and they said of course the world needs it. So here I am, willing and wanting, working to make a difference in the youth and young adults life.

Speaker 2: 7:38

Absolutely, man. That is a great purpose right there. Yeah, and I love that. What have been some of the most challenging things since starting your business that you found, that you've overcome and you've learned so much from? If you wouldn't mind sharing that.

Speaker 1: 7:52

Yes, I don't mind sharing, and that is a great question because it's 2025. I started in 2022. So I'm still learning the industry, I'm still learning business. But one thing that I have adopted that once was a challenge for me that has now become a champion for me in a sense is patience. I understand patience on a higher level now. I understand that guess what? Waiting is not a waste of time and taking your time and doing anything in life is worth it. Therefore, I don't have to go back and repeat those mistakes. Yes, understanding that, guess what? Everything will work out when it's supposed to work out.

Speaker 1: 8:42

Me trying to do it ahead of the time, me trying to put things in place because, guess what? My mind and my creative will is spinning and I got to do this and I got to do that and this has to be this way. Just understanding to take my time and patience. And I've learned that because in the beginning, when I first got started, I was like who's going to listen to me? And I had a woman who really shined some light in my life and really spoke.

Speaker 1: 9:17

Something that really awakened something. I mean she said it's going to happen for you. Just you wait and see, right and that translated into patience, and I didn't understand it then the way I understand it now yeah, and I didn't understand it then the way I understand it now. So knowing that patience at that particular time, when I first started out, was something that I had to learn. Now that I get to share that with the youth and young adults the art of patience and that it's going to work out for you, all you have to do is stay consistent with it, believe in it, trust in it and continue to show up for it. And when I have done that in this business, I promised that what was working against me is now working for me. Impatience was a challenge for me in the beginning and that was something that I struggled with. Now is my strength.

Speaker 2: 10:13

I love that. Like taking what was once maybe a weakness and now using it full force to help other people and yourself. Yes, I love that. Yeah, and then for programs, do you have anything where people can do things virtually? Do you have a workbook any strategies that help the youth with overcoming this phase of becoming an adult?

Speaker 1: 10:35

Yes, and it's funny that you ask that because I just created a handbook. Look at that. Yes, and the handbook is transitioning into adulthood. It is absolutely available. The hard copy is available absolutely available. The hard copy is available and in the hard copy handbook it has the importance of adulthood. It has embracing adulthood. It also gives you some steps to overcome your fear of adulthood. It also has in the book which I absolutely love is some quotes that are in text messages form, because that's what the youth and younger dads do. They text, that's their language right. So meeting them right where they are in this handbook is what I really really appreciate. That.

Speaker 1: 11:30

I just didn't, you know, feel as if, like, I just want to create a handbook. Just to create a handbook. Yeah, I wanted it to be impactful. Yes, I wanted it to be relatable. I wanted them to connect with it on a fundamental level, absolutely At least. I wanted them to understand the basics of what it's going to take in order to make this transition.

Speaker 1: 11:59

So, embracing adulthood, the importance of adulthood, understanding adulthood, accepting it right, because you're going to be an adult longer than you've ever been a kid, a teenager.

Speaker 1: 12:16

So becoming familiar with adulthood right and making it work for them in their environment, in their peer-to-peer you know social settings, yep, because that's what's important, and they must understand that each one teach one and, as they continuously to evolve and grow in this area of life, that they become better and better with it, and that they know the importance of what this really entails. So the handbook covers those things, and another thing that I really really, um, I love and admire about the handbook is there is a prayer of affirmation in that, you know, a prayer from me to them, inspiring them, giving them hope, you know, giving them love. If they never felt it tangibly, that they get to feel it, I'll say virtually in a sense. Also, there are some resources that is in this handbook not just myself, because I have an online course as well, transitioning Into Adulthood and it's a resource that is in there as well but the other resources books to read, interviewing techniques that they could really glean from yeah, so the handbook is just not only about adulthood.

Speaker 1: 13:42

There are other steps that they have, that are available to them, that they get to really, you know, learn from yeah and grow from yes.

Speaker 2: 13:52

Yeah, absolutely. And grow from yes, yeah, absolutely. And then what have been some challenges that you've noticed whether it's parents or maybe kids, teens are coming to you with, and how have you helped them solve that when it comes to adulthood?

Speaker 1: 14:05

Some of the challenges that I have seen the youth and young adults who really bring to my awareness is they don't have the support, they don't have the love, and I understand that you know at a very high level, but I understand it eye to eye. For them and the challenges that they face, just in this society in general, is a lack of love, a lack of support. You know, in finding it at home, you know finding it on social media is hard. One thing that I have shared with them that if they cannot find the love or the support that they need around them, that everything that they need is within them, how do they tap into that? Right, first, believing in who they are Right. Also, understanding. Right. Also understanding that I'm not where I come from, I'm not the mistakes that I made and they're not responsible for other people's emotions yes, about who they are and who they should become. So we have these conversations right and the greatest gift that I give them is that I've been where you are Right. I can relate. So I don't want them to think or feel that where I am today I've always been, that I had to grow and evolve in this area, but I want them to evolve and not dissolve in this area. But I want them to evolve and not dissolve as they make this transition.

Speaker 1: 15:57

And learning to love themselves is the greatest support that they'll ever give to themselves that, when nobody else shows up for them, that they show up for themselves. And it is a weakness that will become a strength. The more and more that will become a strength, the more and more they become acquainted with it, the more and more they understand and learn how to do that, the more and more they affirm and accept that guess what? Love is the cure and it conquers all. But what does that look like? What does love look like to them? We all have a different definition of love, right, like to them, we all have a different definition of love, right, and that love to them may be being available when I need you.

Speaker 1: 16:39

You know that love may translate into time. So understanding what that love for them really means is where they get to pull from. So in the challenge in that, or not even the challenge, the, the acceptance in that, as it continues to evolve, is that what they learn? They can now return? Yes, absolutely, they can now return. Yes, absolutely, you know. Yes, because in that learning phase. There comes a time when you have to return it, and that's where I support them and return it what it is that they've learned yes, so it comes back around right and they can show others that love and that's possible.

Speaker 2: 17:27

Oh my gosh, I wish I had this kind of stuff when I was a kid, because sometimes, like you said, lack of support, like even from just your parents or your friends, you're kind of like alone and trying to figure things out Can be very, very hard, especially when you're around a lot of like negativity and you just kind of start thinking like that too. So it's really important to have that support and nurture around you. So that's where you come in. And thank goodness, my gosh, because what are we without that support, especially as a young person trying to manage everything? Yes, high school is crazy sometimes, or all the times, and then just going to college and like figuring out like I have to get insurance or I have to do all this stuff, like I don't know when do I begin. My parents didn't tell me this, they just said good luck, yeah, right.

Speaker 1: 18:16

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 18:17

So it can be tough to handle and figure out like where do I even start?

Speaker 1: 18:22

What do you want?

Speaker 2: 18:22

me to do. You want me to drive. I don't have a car. You know a car. We're going to pay all that stuff, you know. And then where do you see yourself?

Speaker 1: 18:34

in the next five years as a person and with your business. So in the next five years, I see this being global, international, right, on all levels, because I really am thriving to bring a lot of awareness around this, because the more and more I talk to the youth and young adults, they confirm the importance of it and they confirm the need for it and they always say I wish that guess what you were in my back pocket. Exactly, yes, you know, and I could just pull you out and tap right into you, into technology, however that looks and feel for them, and continuously to move this movement forward because they need it. I believe in them in a way that I cannot even begin to articulate.

Speaker 1: 19:24

You know, and this is know, and this is this is necessary, it's essential, and my goal is to take this on the road and to expose it in every city, every state, yeah, every country, every continent, because they must understand that they have to make this transition, yes, and in this transition, that there is help, there's support and, even if it's the fear of the unknown, that there's still some nurture around this transformation and nature is still available for them to transition into it. Right, so, understanding the nurture and the nature of transitioning into adulthood as well. So I'm looking to take this as big as possible. You know, if I have to build it brick by brick possible, you know if I have to build it brick by brick, I'm all in right, um, and making this, uh, a movement for them, because I know without a shadow of a doubt that it is well needed and it is essential to their overall well-being absolutely.

Speaker 2: 20:48

What do you think could be done differently, whether it's in our country or our school system that could help, I guess, support these young adults into transitioning into adulthood?

Speaker 1: 20:59

One of the things I see is a huge need is that the children want somebody that they can confide in and being that askable adult that they can go to. You know, somebody that they can confide in and being a confidant. They need that in the school, in the world, you know. And having that person that is trustworthy not just trustworthy, not just honest, but transparent, revealing to them guess what? The answers to the unasked questions, that's what they need Somebody that they can confide in, somebody that they can confide in, yeah, somebody that they can trust. And this world has definitely failed them in that area, you know, because everybody is out for self, yeah, and everybody is what can you do for me? Yes, everybody is in competition and not in collaboration. Yeah, and when we see this, it just brings upon all of these crimes, because everybody's trying to outdo the next person, or I want what you have. But when we all realize that we're in this together, you know, and that each one teach one An iron sharpens iron that's how we're going to bubble up to the top, yeah. So they need somebody they can confide in. Yeah, they need somebody that they can trust, Somebody that is transparent with them, yes, somebody that's not just going to hold their secrets but also understand their privacy. Yes, and that's what I see that they're missing in the school systems and, you know, in other entities that are around the youth and young adults.

Speaker 1: 23:03

Yeah, and one thing, um, I'm really aspiring to do as this movement grows that they understand that they have a decision in life to make as it relates to their own life. Yes, and that they do not have to join a cult in order to feel like they are a part of something. Yeah, like they fit in. Yeah, like they fit in, like I just want somebody to lead my life. Let me just join this cult. Yeah, this religious cult or whatever cult it is.

Speaker 1: 23:36

Yeah, let me just join this so that I don't have to do the work on my own. So bringing this awareness to transitioning into adulthood gives them that, that sense of belonging. Yeah, it gives them a sense to know that they have a decision to make about their life, you know, and that they do not have to join a cult just to feel seen and just to feel loved or heard, even yeah, yeah and heard, yeah, and that's and that's important to them. You know, they, they matter. We have to train them up in a way that they should go that when they get old they don't depart from it because they will go back to the foundation in which they've been trained. You know, and I hate to use this terminology, but even a dog knows way back home.

Speaker 2: 24:30

Yeah, I mean, it's true.

Speaker 1: 24:32

Yeah, you know what I'm saying so with that being stated, they will go back to what makes sense. Yep, it's humanistic. You know, yes, yeah, and understand that they do not have to struggle, you know to survive, and that they have a right and a decision to make to live and just not only exist and enjoy living. Yes, because life is good, regardless of what we see, regardless of what's going on around us. Life is good, regardless of what we see, regardless of what's going on around us. Life is good. All we have to do is create that mindset and change. You know the trajectory and how we see life. You know, because life is about insight and eyesight. You know, and when they understand, the insight is on the inside and the eyesight is on the outside and the two comes together and it gives you a visual of guess what? How to stay focused and if they get off focus, get refocused. That's right.

Speaker 2: 25:30

Oh man. So yeah, I love that your way of speaking is so good. Are you a public speaker or something? Because, like my gosh, I'm just like keep going. It's so good. Have you ever considered?

Speaker 1: 25:41

that you know, everybody's like you should be a public speaker and I'm like and I guess this, this particular industry, drafts you into it, you know, into public speaking, and I am, I'm open to it. I don't close the door.

Speaker 1: 25:57

Good, you know I don't close the door or anything. Um, I'm open to public speaking, um. But when I first got into this industry I was like, oh no, I don't want to do public speaking, I just want to do coaching. You know, one-on-one coaching, group coaching, you know. Whatever that looks like, that's what I want to do. I don't want to do the public speaking thing, but I have supported many people, you know, in public speaking. I have been around the TED Talk environment.

Speaker 2: 26:26

Nice.

Speaker 1: 26:27

But, needless to say, if that opportunity comes at my door, I'm going to welcome it with open arms.

Speaker 2: 26:34

I love it. I won't turn it down. Yeah, I love that. I love it being fearless with new change and things You've got to be open to that. Yeah, I love it. Is there anything perhaps that I have not asked you about? Perhaps you want to talk about whether it's about yourself, your industry, your business, anything at all. Maybe you've got a new product coming out with, like your workbook. Besides that, anything at all your workbook.

Speaker 1: 27:02

Besides that, anything at all? Um, yes, I really want to let the youth and young adults know that they are supported, that, even if they never see me, that they are loved, Even if they never even find me on no social media platforms, that there is somebody out here there's praying for them, there's rooting for them, you know, and not just for the materialistic things but for the soul of who they are. You know their mind, their will and their emotions. I want them to know that I've been where they are and I understand where they come from. You know, we may have come from a different environment or from a different lane, but the destination is still the same.

Speaker 1: 27:40

Yeah, you know, and I want them to know that that they're loved, that they're being prayed for and guess what? No matter what nobody says and no matter what they've done, they're not the mistakes that they've made. Yes, that they get to change the trajectory as they move forward in life. That they get to change the trajectory as they move forward in life, Because, you know, life is learned two ways either by mistakes or by mentor. Yeah, and they get to choose. That you know. Yeah, and I want you to know that it is available to them whenever they're ready. Beautiful.

Speaker 2: 28:16

Where can people find you?

Speaker 1: 28:20

You can find me on social media platforms um. I'm on instagram at d for the number four plc. I'm on facebook I'm coaching by keisha. I'm on linkedin coach keisha. Um. I'm on tiktok. Believe it or not so I just established this whole tiktok thing right and I'm still getting acquainted with it to some essence, but needless to say, I'm one there as well. I don't post much, but it's there, I'm available.

Speaker 1: 28:48

They also can reach me by email. I am Destin, the number four Purpose Life Coach at gmailcom. Also, my website is available at wwwcoachingbykeisha2.com. And guess what? It has all of my information there, my telephone contact, and they can reach me on all of those platforms.

Speaker 2: 29:12

Wonderful, and where can people get the workbook if that's something that they're interested in purchasing, if you're interested in the workbook, reach out to my Gmail.

Speaker 1: 29:21

My email account, perfect, and we would get that shipped out to you. Or you can do whatever way you want to do. It is perfectly fine, but we would get that book shipped out to you. If you live in a local area, you may even get a surprise knock. Yeah, I'll deliver it personally, wow.

Speaker 2: 29:40

Okay, next day shipping Love it. Personal delivery Love it. And now my final question is there a quote or a saying that has stood out, that maybe you read somewhere, or somebody told you something and it's resonated with you. Would you mind sharing that with us, just as a last parting message?

Speaker 1: 29:58

Yes, one of the quotes that I absolutely love is that if the plan doesn't work, change the plan and not the goal. You know, yeah, yeah, the goal is the goal, and if the goal is to be successful in however they identify success, still make that the goal. Just change the plan. You know, just because we make a wrong turn doesn't mean that it doesn't lead to the right Avenue. Yeah, and if you have to walk this, walk alone, walking alone, knowing that it's not the wrong path to walk.

Speaker 2: 30:32

Yes, well said. Thank you so much for being here and sharing so much wisdom and your passion. We really appreciate you making time to be here.

Speaker 1: 30:40

Yes, thank you for having me. I enjoy these opportunities and I'm looking forward to being impactful into the youth and young adults life.